Two Steps Forward, One Step Back

For the last several days, I’ve been thinking about what I want for this blog, and that is why I haven’t posted anything. Still working on some stylistic issues too and hope to have those resolved in the next week or so. But there were events last night which caused me to doubt myself and my hopes and dreams of writing which is why I am here this morning trying to resolve them by writing.

Have you ever had someone close to you say that your dreams are silly or unworthy or any other term that was not encouraging? Or even to imply those things, not necessarily saying them, but saying enough for you to know that was what they meant? Well, it happened to me, and I’m trying to sort it all out. I talked with my husband for a long time too, and I realized something. When that happens, we need to find people that support us and that believe in us no matter what. It doesn’t matter if they’re in real life or online. It’s just important that we have the support especially as writers since writing is such a solitary endeavor.

So, for those of you who are reading this, I would like to know where do you get that support when you feel discouraged? When you can’t find the right thing to say? When someone tells you that your dream of writing is not worthy to be considered a dream? And most important, how do you get rid of the negative influences? I really appreciate all of you who have taken the time to read this.

Until next time, be real!!!!

10 Replies to “Two Steps Forward, One Step Back”

  1. I get the support my from my mom. No matter how impossible my dreams may be, she always tells me that I can do it. So if you want to borrow her, just let me know.

    Also, I get encouraged to keep pressing on just to spite EVERYONE who thinks that I can’t do it. That may sound bad and such, but those doubters just encourage me even more.

    Chances are, those that doubt and discourage you are people who didn’t have the strength to stand up for their own dreams. They are probably the ones who listened to the nay-sayers and never accomplished their dreams.

    You can do it!!!

  2. I hope you find the support you need from your husband and friends. You certainly have it from me, despite the distance. Incidentally, I get that all the time, even when they are too polite to voice their doubts directly. But I can just about catch those rolling eyes, the sarcastic smile, the clever (yet ambiguous) put-down…
    Brush myself down, get up and back on the horse again, for fear I will be overcome with fear and never ride again.

    1. Thanks Marina! I heard everything you said when I was talking to the people the other night. The worst part was when I was talking about a fairly well-known editor who lives here, and the person’s tone implied they didn’t believe me, like they were thinking, “Why would he live where I live?” I felt like saying, ‘I’ve heard him speak because he LIVES here.’
      My husband said I should dial this person’s phone number the next time the editor is speaking at my writing club meeting and ask the editor to say that he is really this person. While that would give me utmost satisfaction, I think I would rather wait until my book is finished and then have him as my editor. Now, that would be all kinds of cool. πŸ™‚

  3. Ignore! Ignore!! Ignore!!! That’s how I handle the discouragers of my aspirations (I know, sometimes easier said than done).

    I think when people attempt to belittle and otherwise discourage you in pursuit of your dreams, it’s more of a reflection on them and how they feel about themselves than it is on you and your pursuits.

    Keep that in mind and keep pressing forward. You’ll be better for having persevered through the discouragement.

  4. Thanks Rich! I think this person’s life hasn’t ended up the way they wanted it, and that is why certain things were said. I am taking your advice to ignore.

  5. You do need at least one person to be at your side who can be your mother, sis, bro or a best friend. But I feel the best supporters are the spouses. In my case, my husband is highly supportive. He encourages me to do whatever I feel right in my career or relationships.Last night when I accidently discussed something with him in front of my kids ( Which was supposed to be kept secret; a family secret) that I told my boss about that. My son got annoyed but my husband told him that his mom knew better what was to be done at her work place. You guys can guess my feelings. Even afterwards he told me that I did the right thing. I am very lucky, thanks God. Rest of the opposition and contradiction can be ignored ignored,ignored,and ignored as long as he is with me.
    Good Luck

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